This is my article in the current Australian Leadership. It has come to mind again as I think about Fathers’ Day.
“It’s mad. It’s crazy. I just don’t get it.” This week I’ve had two quite intense conversations with ministers I’ve known and respected for decades – experienced, effective church leaders – who are at their wits end with the state of the church. It’s about numerical decline, ageing, cultural change and the extraordinary levels of dysfunction and conflict that they deal with every day as they exercise their regional responsibilities. I want to say something about this. But I want to tell you about my holiday first.
There is a balm in Gilead
I think I must be last person in the English-speaking world to come to Gilead, the Pulitzer Prize winning novel by Marilynne Robinson. It’s set in 1956 in an isolated little town in Iowa. The elderly Reverend John Ames knows that he is dying and decides to write an account of his life for his seven year old son who he realises will have few memories of him once he grows into adulthood. The novel is that letter. It ranges widely across memories of his father and grandfather – both of whom were also ministers – the town and congregation that he has served so faithfully, his reflections on the experiences of war, friendship, ministry, loss, hope and grace. It is beautiful, wise and deeply moving.
Reading it as a minister myself, its effect reminded me of reading Bo Giertz’ The Hammer of God many years ago. That novel tells the story of three Swedish pastors who learn by trial and error that ministry – “the cure of souls” – is at heart accepting and living out of the grace of God. Both novels are very effective short courses in the practice of ministry.
But as I read Gilead I found my identification with John Ames as a minister became secondary to a much stronger identification with him as a father and a son. That may well have had to do with the fact that I’d chosen it as holiday reading in a week that my wife and I spent recently with my own parents. Because we live in different states it takes a bit of planning to make sure I see them, at least briefly, several times a year. They are in their late eighties and I treasure every opportunity to be with them. In this case we’d decided to spend a week together in the warmth of Darwin where there’d be nothing much to do but chat, nap and sample any cafés I could find with a view over the water. We did it all at their pace which, you will understand, is now very, very slow.
We heard a lot of stories from their childhood and younger years – stories about their parents, what it was like being teenagers during the Second World War, their marriage and early years in Charleville. Many of the stories were familiar but a surprising number were new to me. We also learnt a lot more about how they manage the effects of ageing and how they feel about it. And all the time, in the hours designated for sleeping after lunch I was reading the Reverend John Ames’ letter to his son, working over the very same themes of family and ageing in a spiritually and theologically rich “autobiography”.
Hagar, Ishmael, and…fatherhood
In this frame of mind, I was startled when I read: “The story of Hagar and Ishmael came to mind while I was praying this morning, and I found a great assurance in it. The story says that it is not only the father of a child who cares for its life, who protects its mother, and it says that even if the mother can’t find a way to provide for it, or herself, provision will be made. At that level it is a story full of comfort.” (p.135)
Frankly, “assurance” and “comfort” have never been words that I’ve associated with that story (Genesis 21:8-21). It’s the injustice, the tragedy of it that has always held my attention. Certainly, God finally notices and responds to the distress of Hagar and Ishmael, but only after Sarah’s jealous rage – “Get rid of that slave woman and her son” – turns out to be the instrument of God’s plan. But, as usual, Marilynne Robinson’s “John Ames” discerns the grace of God in an ugly situation.
A little later in the letter the Reverend Ames reports on the sermon he went on to preach on Hagar and Ishmael: “I began my remarks by pointing out the similarity between the stories of Hagar and Ishmael sent off into the wilderness and Abraham going off with Isaac to sacrifice him, as he believes. My point was that Abraham is in effect called upon to sacrifice both his sons, and that the Lord in both instances sends his angels to intervene at the critical moment to save the child.” (p.146)
I’d never thought about the two stories quite like that before. And before I had time to think it through as an exegetical comment, the old minister started drawing a lesson out of it for his congregation and his son – but mostly for himself as an aged father: “Abraham’s extreme old age is an important element in both stories…because any father, particularly an old father, must finally give his child up to the wilderness and trust to the providence of God… Great faith is required to give the child up, trusting God to honour the parents’ love for him by assuring that there will indeed be angels in that wilderness.”
He hears in the two stories a clear word of assurance and comfort to the father who has to let his child go: there will be angels in that wilderness. And just to be clear that the promise is made not just to Abraham but to everyone: “I noted that Abraham himself had been sent into the wilderness, told to leave his father’s house also, that this was the narrative of all generations, and that it is only by the grace of God that we are made instruments of His providence and participants in a fatherhood that is always ultimately his.”
I thought about my own aged parents sleeping in their nearby room. They’ve had to give one child up to the wilderness already – when my brother died unexpectedly several years ago. We’d been talking about it that week. I knew they were also contemplating what it will mean to give the rest of us up too when, like the Reverend John Ames, they come to the end of their lives. I thought about myself too. I’m also the father of a deceased son and, sooner than I’d like to accept, my parents’ passing will find me in a new wilderness.
Will there be angels in this wilderness?
Gilead took me to this uncomfortable, unwanted place of reflection. But it took me there with a promise: there will be angels in that wilderness. But there was one more thing to come from the old minister.
“At this point I departed from my text to say that an old pastor’s anxiety for his church is likewise a forgetfulness of the fact that Christ is Himself the pastor of His people and a faithful presence among them through all generations. I thought this was a good point, but it started some of the women crying, so I tried to change the subject.” (p.147)
It came back to me this week as, in separate conversations, I listened to those two wise, experienced colleagues express their profound anxiety about the state of the church. “It’s mad. It’s crazy. I just don’t get it. We’re in uncharted territory as a church and I don’t know what to do about it. This is the wilderness, Andrew.”
The words of assurance and comfort came back to me from that fictional old minister: “there will indeed be angels in that wilderness”.
It is as Andrew Purves has explained so compellingly in his book The Crucifixion of Ministry: “there is little, maybe nothing, we who are ministers of the gospel can do that really changes things. If anything worthwhile is to happen, Jesus has to show up… Ministers can’t forgive sinners, raise the dead or bring in the kingdom of God. Neither can we grow congregations, convert sinners or heal the dying… Jesus has to show up and do what he has promised to do.” (p.9)
That is what two millenia of pastoral wisdom teaches with remarkable consistency, but each generation of pastors has to learn afresh for itself. There will be angels in this wilderness too.
Giertz, B., The Hammer of God, Revised Edition (Minneapolis: Augsburg Fortress Publishers, 2005)
Purves, A., The Crucifixion of Ministry (Downers Grove, Il.: InterVarsity Press, 2007)
Robinson, M., Gilead (London: Virago Press, 2005)
PS I’m the little one with the stick, at the Six Mile with Dad and my older brother.
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Hi Andrew, I’m not sure how I landed on here, but being only a couple of weeks on since the death of Denise’s father, and preparing Easter services, I found it quite profound, comforting and reassuring. Sometimes there is comfort in being in the hard places. That we never enter any of the story, God’s story, our story, other’s story alone. But nor do we enter any of them equipped for what is before us, we have to find our way out into the wilderness, and it is only when we realise that it is beyond us, the we realise that the One who is beyond us and before us, is also with us. Thank you for this post and for the pondering that it has brought forth from within. Peace Jeff